Updated on July 25, 2015
This holiday we decided, instead of staying in a hotel we will stay in a house. So we booked a house and when we reached, there was a caretaker to receive us. She couldn’t speak a word of English. A sweet smiling middle aged lady from Switzerland (frankly speaking, I don’t know her origin). She welcomed us with a smile and started showing us around the house. Then she explained me how to use all the utilities and the system of the garbage. I couldn’t understand a word what she was saying, but understood every thing by the sign language. I made a cup of Indian tea for her and through her expressions she was thanking me and telling me how much she enjoyed it.
Many years ago I had been to Columbia, South America on a Rotary Exchange Programme, where you stay with Rotarian families and learn about each other’s culture. I stayed with many families who didn’t speak any English and I knew very little Spanish which I learnt basic Spanish language for the programme. However, each stay was a very beautiful experience as the warmth, love and giving was visible without any spoken words.
Just recently I met some Chinese people who came over to my place for lunch and didn’t speak any English. They came with the interpreter. But I enjoyed the conversations without the interpretation. They were very comfortable at my place and feeling at home. It was fun communicating with all the chaos.
All these episodes made me realise that we don’t need the language to communicate but what we need is a beautiful body language. If you smile it’s simply a smile. It’s not that when a Chinese is smiling, he is sad or angry or if a Spanish is frowning, he is happy. We can easily identify people who are friendly and loving or arrogant and unfriendly without they saying anything.
Body language, expressions and gestures are the way to communicate. It’s good to be perfect in your diction, grammar and command over the language. Yes they do matter for creating impressions and perfection but does not necessarily communicate love, warmth and feeling of welcome. When someone tries to correct you all the time for your language, grammar and your spellings, it’s interesting to watch their expressions. They have an expression of superiority and sarcasm. Instead of focussing on the gist what the person is saying and making fun of the person, you miss the point.
I have read somewhere, over the years your thoughts become your muscles and this is how we get permanent facial expressions. Your face says it. We all need to work on our inner thoughts, body language and gestures as that’s one thing you can’t fake it. They tell it all. That’s the real communication.