Updated on July 11, 2015
This and That
This and That
I always wonder, it’s our predetermined destiny that rules our life or we make our own destiny.
Our fate is sealed at the time of conception. A lot depends on what genes did you pick up from 23 chromosomes each. Your looks, your intelligence, your personality and even your medical issues are dependent on your genes. Once you are out of the womb, what environment and exposure you get; your parents, your teachers, your friends and your surroundings help develop your personality. Then you are on your own. 70 % is your inheritance and rest is, what you do with your life.
Genes play a very important role in your physical and mental set up. We had gone for a party once and met a very renowned cardiologist. My friend asked him, “Doctor, what do we eat and do”, so that we don’t have any problems related to heart. He smiled and said, you don’t have to do anything, every thing depends on your genes. Yes agreed genes do matter, but to fit into your jeans one has to work hard.
I see a lot of people working very hard, struggling, praying, wearing stones, changing spellings, but no luck. Luck does play a role. Your stars do matter. There are times you try for something very hard. Come what may, things don’t happen the way you want. That doesn’t mean we should stop working hard, the harder you work the luckier you get. Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity. Keep trying, your stars will smile one day.
My mother had a knee problem for six years. It became so bad that the doctors suggested amputation. We saw various doctors and finally one doctor agreed to redo the whole surgery. It was the most difficult time. It was painful physically and mentally. She went through depression and anxiety disorder. We took her to phycologist, physiatrist and she was under anti depressants. I met an astrologer who pepped her a lot and asked her to recite some mantras twice a day and do Japji Sahib paath in the morning. He told her, surely you will cure 100%. She started doing all this very sincerely and after some days her senses calmed down and within two months she was cured. ‘Faith’ helped her float.
But sometimes the same ‘faith’ can drown you. If an astrologer tells you, your period is not good; you have sade satti (your 7 1/2 years ahead are not favourable for you). Then you are doomed. You take it for granted nothing will work for you and you don’t make any attempts. I hear it very often from people, “meri sade satti chal rahi hai”, kuch nahi hoga. They become closed. That is the time don’t believe in it and defy the thought. Simply reject it. Put it in trash.
So it’s this and that. You have to be smart enough to understand when to enjoy your genes and when to fight them out. When to have faith and completely surrender yourself and when to defy the the myth and not get swayed by it.
I believe that our destiny is a combination of our luck and efforts. They both complement each other.